Letter From A Mother

>> Friday, May 14, 2010

With the pope calling gays who wants to get married "one of the most insidious and dangerous challenges that today confront the common good" and refusing to address the child molestation charges, George "Lift My Luggage" Rekers positioning himself to sue the newspaper which broke the story of him being an anti-gay advocate and researcher while secretly enjoys massages from gay prostitutes, another kid getting denied enrollment to a Catholic school because he got two mommies, and Supreme Court nominee Elena Kagan being scrutinized that she might be a lesbian (Hey, look! She played softball!), her defenders had to resort to say that she had dated guys in the past to somehow make her sound more credible. It should be plenty clear that no one in their right mind would choose to be a homosexual. I mean what would be the benefits?

To say that homosexuality is a choice had been somewhat puzzling to me. I know I liked boys since I was around 12. It wasn't a conscious decision. To say I chose to be that way makes me wonder if the person who say that chose to be straight? That would require a person with the same sexual attraction to both men and women, then decide it's much easier and more morally justifiable to date the opposite sex. At least for me it wasn't that way. I'm attracted to guys, I was never attracted to girls. Unlike sexual attractions, religion is a choice, being in the closet and hire prostitute is a choice, denying a kid to a school because of his family situation is a choice, bigotry, being an asshole, being a bully is a choice.

Below is a letter from a mother of a gay son living in Vermont:

Many letters have been sent to the Valley News concerning the homosexual menace in Vermont. I am the mother of a gay son and I've taken enough from you good people.

I'm tired of your foolish rhetoric about the "homosexual agenda" and your allegations that accepting homosexuality is the same thing as advocating sex with children. You are cruel and ignorant. You have been robbing me of the joys of motherhood ever since my children were tiny.

My firstborn son started suffering at the hands of the moral little thugs from your moral, upright families from the time he was in the first grade. He was physically and verbally abused from first grade straight through high school because he was perceived to be gay.

He never professed to be gay or had any association with anything gay, but he had the misfortune not to walk or have gestures like the other boys. He was called "fag" incessantly, starting when he was 6.

In high school, while your children were doing what kids that age should be doing, mine labored over a suicide note, drafting and redrafting it to be sure his family knew how much he loved them. My sobbing 17-year-old tore the heart out of me as he choked out that he just couldn't bear to continue living any longer, that he didn't want to be gay and that he couldn't face a life without dignity.

You have the audacity to talk about protecting families and children from the homosexual menace, while you yourselves tear apart families and drive children to despair. I don't know why my son is gay, but I do know that God didn't put him, and millions like him, on this Earth to give you someone to abuse. God gave you brains so that you could think, and it's about time you started doing that.

At the core of all your misguided beliefs is the belief that this could never happen to you, that there is some kind of subculture out there that people have chosen to join. The fact is that if it can happen to my family, it can happen to yours, and you won't get to choose. Whether it is genetic or whether something occurs during a critical time of fetal development, I don't know. I can only tell you with an absolute certainty that it is inborn.

If you want to tout your own morality, you'd best come up with something more substantive than your heterosexuality. You did nothing to earn it; it was given to you. If you disagree, I would be interested in hearing your story, because my own heterosexuality was a blessing I received with no effort whatsoever on my part. It is so woven into the very soul of me that nothing could ever change it. For those of you who reduce sexual orientation to a simple choice, a character issue, a bad habit or something that can be changed by a 10-step program, I'm puzzled. Are you saying that your own sexual orientation is nothing more than something you have chosen, that you could change it at will? If that's not the case, then why would you suggest that someone else can?

A popular theme in your letters is that Vermont has been infiltrated by outsiders. Both sides of my family have lived in Vermont for generations. I am heart and soul a Vermonter, so I'll thank you to stop saying that you are speaking for "true Vermonters."

You invoke the memory of the brave people who have fought on the battlefield for this great country, saying that they didn't give their lives so that the "homosexual agenda" could tear down the principles they died defending. My 83-year-old father fought in some of the most horrific battles of World War II, was wounded and awarded the Purple Heart.

He shakes his head in sadness at the life his grandson has had to live. He says he fought alongside homosexuals in those battles, that they did their part and bothered no one. One of his best friends in the service was gay, and he never knew it until the end, and when he did find out, it mattered not at all. That wasn't the measure of the man.

You religious folk just can't bear the thought that as my son emerges from the hell that was his childhood he might like to find a lifelong companion and have a measure of happiness. It offends your sensibilities that he should request the right to visit that companion in the hospital, to make medical decisions for him or to benefit from tax laws governing inheritance.

How dare he? you say. These outrageous requests would threaten the very existence of your family, would undermine the sanctity of marriage.

You use religion to abdicate your responsibility to be thinking human beings. There are vast numbers of religious people who find your attitudes repugnant. God is not for the privileged majority, and God knows my son has committed no sin.

The deep-thinking author of a letter to the April 12 Valley News who lectures about homosexual sin and tells us about "those of us who have been blessed with the benefits of a religious upbringing" asks: "What ever happened to the idea of striving . . . to be better human beings than we are?"

Indeed, sir, what ever happened to that?
For our sexuality, all our lives we will be discriminated upon. It doesn't matter how much good we contribute to the society in general; donate money, volunteer, run for causes, nothing will matter. People will still pick on us because we love who we love even though what we want is not much different than anyone else; to have a meaningful relation with someone, someone to share the rest of our lives with. What exactly is this insidious, destructive thing that we are committing? What could be the carnage left behind? Dozens of country already have legal gay marriage, did they end up to be hell on earth?

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